I'm at a loss at what to do. There's nothing that I CAN do, I think.
A couple of times, months ago I wrote about how my parents had divorced, my father doing everything he could to make my mother fail, and how we moved to Ireland. Then we moved back to the US, and then back to Ireland once more. We were going to get dual-citizenship status and along with it, EU passports. This would allow my mother to finally obtain a job and finally make some money. Without it, it's illegal for any of us in the family to get hired. My mom tried sending out resumes anyway while waiting for the passports; over 300, I believe. Each and every reply was the same. "The only thing stopping us from hiring you is that you don't have a work permit."
We failed to get our passports. To get mine, I'd have to serve in the Greek army for a full year. A year in a country I don't know, with a language I can't speak. Even then, I'd have to wait until the year is over BEFORE my mom could obtain a work permit.
To get my sister's, she would need a notarized letter from my father, stating that he was born in Greece and would make us eligible for dual-citizenship. He refuses to do it to prevent my mother from being able to find work. He's admitted this.
I went down to the store and withdrew a bit of money for snacks and cigarettes (for my mom. I don't smoke.) I was told to keep the receipt and give it to her, so she could see how much was in the account.
$45
My mom begins to panic and I could see the fear in her expression. How could this be accurate? She should've had another $2000 in there! She contacted the bank and spoke with someone, to see if there was a mistake. No mistake. It seems we really have burned through the rest of our money.
To make matters worse, my mother's lawyer is requesting another $2500 in advance to continue representing her in the child custody case. My dad's not doing this for custody. He knows he can outspend her and is doing this to make her broke. It worked.
All of our belongings have already been picked up by the shipping company for when we're moving back to the United States. There's really nothing left we could even sell now, but there's also no money to get anything back, much less ship it.
We still have a week before our plane. We don't have the money for a cheap hotel, or cab fare. We don't even have the money for food this week. Our phone has been shut off, and the only reason we still have internet access is because Eircom, the provider, doesn't seem to know how to shut us off.
That's not the end of it, either. Back when my parents were still married, my dad and my grandmother had been cheating on his business's taxes. The IRS has gotten wind of it, and my dad's pinning the blame on my mother. He's told them that "she took the kids, packed up everything and fled the country." It's possible that my mom could be flying into the US and expecting handcuffs.
Merry Christmas.
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Dec 8 2006, 1:58 am
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I'm sorry to hear/read all of this Sarm. I hope that, in some way, things get better once you get back to the U.S.
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Shit, i dont know what to say, that really sucks. I hope things work out. Your dads an asshole to. It seems hes the root of this problem. If i were you, i would call your dad, and tell him that your not just hurting your mom, but you, and your sister as well. Tell him to do something. You have to get on his good side. Other wise, it seems hes just gonna keep attacking.
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Damn, man, I don't know what can be said...
This is one of those instances where I wish I had the ability to go and choke some sense into someone...lol |
Your father is a disgusting man.
Thats just disgusting, Why the fuck would he try to ruin his own childrens lives just because of a devorce? Its not right.. The man is more then likely an idiot and blinded by rage so he doesn't even relize he is hurting you in the process. I'm sorry that your father is an asshole and deserves to have every asset he has taken away from him. I hope he dies. |
As far as the IRS problem goes, try not to worry about it. Despite what many people think, having the truth on your side really does matter.
Anyway, I hope that things work out for you and your family Sarm... it's hard, but do your best to keep a positive outlook. |
Wow, that really sucks. You should try to get a paypal to get people to send you money. In this case, I know I would try to help out by donating what I can.
I mean no offense towards you but your father is a selfish, arrogant(thinking he can pin the blame on your mom), and sorry excuse for a human being. To go that far just to ensure that his ex-wife fails is upsetting. I wish the best for you and hope that all goes well. |
Knifo wrote:
If i were you, i would call your dad, and tell him that your not just hurting your mom, but you, and your sister as well. I tried talking to him once before about that, and his response was this (word for word). "I don't give a fuck. If you don't like it, you can hit the road, Jack!" |
Sarm wrote:
Knifo wrote: Perhaps you should have had a voice recorder... If your Dad acts like that in public, it's a fucking miracle someone hasn't shot him yet. |
Sarm, I am sorry to hear about that. The first thing you should do is tell your mom to quit cigarattes, atleast at the time. Every $5 she spends on it is hurting not just herself, but you and your sister too. Also, Knifo, shut up, why the hell should Sarm get on his good side? You are an idiot. Sarm, if I were you, I would find my dad and beat the living shit out of him. If you do not mind me asking, why are your parents getting divorced? What did your mom/dad do?
Also, remember, the world should unfold as it should. What goes around comes around. Your dad will hit the shit fan soon. |
I'm not holding Knifo's suggestion against him or anything.
It's also $7 per cigarette box. x_x Also, the "beat the living shit out of someone in his 60s" wouldn't do any amount of good. My mom also received a child support check of $500 later today. After a year and a half, it's the first one he's ever sent, but it's in US money so it would take up to 3 weeks to clear. My mom's having another sister transfer some money over. It's too obvious why he chose to send a check now; he wants to use that in court to say that he's been paying child support and that my mom is squandering it. He and his lawer completely ruined their own case in court last time. Hopefully it'll happen again. Edit: My mom finally had enough. After constant humilation, barking orders at her for 22 years, making her do the cooking, cleaning, garbage, lawn work, child rearing, billing, running his own business, working at Comcast, while my dad would take the money she earned from her work and use it to gamble while he drank at bars and drive around, collecting paychecks for the company, she couldn't stand it anymore. It also doesn't help his case when she found out that he was with another woman, tried to start a threesome (his sexual fantasy) with my mom and that woman, his bestiality porn, and his occasional beatings of one of my sisters (he threw a ceramic plate at her and kicked her out of the house for not getting him a glass of water before putting the dog in its cage). Also, he was pushing for my mom to get life insurance 'in case anything happened', and when my mom got in a car crash one day the only thing he was concerned about was whether or not the life insurance policy was still active. When she suggested he get life insurance too, "for the welfare of the children", he said "Why would I care? When I'm dead I won't give a fuck what happens to anyone else!" Then when they did divorce, he began coming home drunk every night and trying to pick fights with my mom. He broke her finger one day. He tried bribing my 12 year old sister with cigarettes if she'd tell the judge she would rather live with my dad. |
Cavern, im not the idiot here, you are. When i said get on his good side, did you think i ment for him to join his father and turn on his family or something... Jesus... you dumbass. I ment for him to try to talk to his father, and try to make things better. And hopefully get him to stop bothering his mother because things are hard enouph.
-Cavern- I would find my dad and beat the living shit out of him. And no cavern your advice is not good, why would you try to make things worse. You know his dad is obviously a jelous and cruel person. You dont want to fuel something thats already bad like there situation, otherwise his dad might get more pissed, and do something worse, the best thing is to try get your dad to chill out, and calm things down, cavern... |
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I feel for you, Sarm. :(