(This is coming from someone who has never sought a relationship, so keep that in mind)

I don't think there will be any "magic word" that will make someone fall for you. Rather, just keep expressing that you care for her through your actions instead. The whole "louder than words" thing. Even then, no matter how much you encourage it there's no guarantee that you can make someone fall in love with you, as it'll be something that she'll have to deal with herself (I don't mean that in a bad way).

come on guys you know what i mean heres an example my friend gave me ex. i like u a lot i wanna talk to u more if you will give me a chance I will be there for you and I wont let you down and if it works out I wont let anything get in the way of our relationship.
just anything that will make her say awwww there is magic words that makes her say awww because ive done it before.....then i can handle it from there

she said she likes me but shes thinking everytime i ask her out she says idk but she likes me

If she liked you, she wouldn't string you along like that, move on. I know it sounds harsh, but it's the best thing to do. If she really does like you, she may come after you, but you've chased her enough already.

I used to be this way until I realized how easy it actually was to get a girl to like you.

I am going to give you some advice, because, although I don't know you or your situation well, it sounds to me like you blew your current situation and you don't realize you did. If you told her you love her (in a non-friend way) before you were sure she was interested, in my book, that's a huge mistake.

Before you learn what to say, you gotta know what girls like: Girls can like anyone, and it's different for all girls. But a lot of girls really have little preference to what they want... They use mainly feelings to determine whether they like someone, a gut feeling, NOT "credentials" or "looks" like men do. A phrase I hear a lot is that "looks will get you the interview, but won't get you the girl." It is your job to turn on this "gut feeling" that makes them like you.

Some people wonder why all of the "jerks" are the only guys who get girls. This is generally true, but not why you might think. Some give you the excuse that "girls dont like guys like me" which may be true with some girls, but not most. These "jerks" mainly just KNOW how to make girls fall for them, or they were lucky enough to do the right things the first time without knowing.

First of all, don't have very high standards with looks. No, I'm not saying you need to date a lonely 300 pound girl, I'm saying just to make sure you are open. You can't force yourself to like someone, but some people will set standards like "Very Skinny, big chested, blonde, has a lot of money", when that is really just what their "favorite" would be. They don't realize they could fall in love with someone who doesn't quite fit that description.

Second, don't appear desperate. One of the biggest mistakes guys make is to make themselves into the "I want you so bad your so beautiful your so talented your so smart I love you I love you" before the girl likes them at all. This just boosts the girl's ego so much that she ends up finding you creepy, and shops around for other guys now that she knows she can have that effect on people. In general, girls dislike clinginess (But that does NOT mean you don't compliment her).

Third, leave her confused. Cruel? Maybe, but it works. Compliment things like her intelligence, her eyes, her hair (especially if they spend a lot of time on their hair), and her personality. I find that saying things like "wow! you are so cool! there aren't very many girls that like that!" seems to get their attention. However, leave it open if you like them or not, compliment those things, but don't pursue her until you are sure she is definately interested.

Fourth, don't wait too long to make it a relationship. Waiting too long is what will cause you to get the "you're like a brother to me!"s.

Fifth, don't generally make it known that you are an "incredibly nice guy", just show that you are a pretty nice guy. Most girls are turned off to guys that don't have any bad side at all. Most girls would like to date someone who is "a bad guy, but treats women great".

Lastly, don't keep trying at a girl if she she never actually is interested in you. Girls don't want to hurt you most of the time, so they will say "maybe" a lot. This leads guys on. If you get a lot of maybes (general term), find someone else.


I don't know if this helps you at all, but it sounds like you have the same problems that a lot of guys do. I use this advice, and it works phenomenally. This advice may not apply to all guys, but it helped me.

Also, this message isn't just to you, I know you "just want something to say to a girl you like", but I'm always itching to help out lonely guys.

The way I get girls to like me is looks. :) I don't even have to say any thing. A girl will walk up, and just start talking like so where are you from, how old are you, do you have a girlfriend. I just say around here, how old do you think I am, and maybe depends if you're interested. Then just turn around, and stuff like I could careless about this girl, and she will continue to try to talk I just give her short answers.

Eventually, she will do one of two things:

1. Walk away thinking about you.
2. Stay there keep talking to you hoping to start a conversation.

If she walks away it’s most likely, because she gave you her number already. If she hasn't then walk up to her, and just say, "Hey wait I didn't catch your number."

If she stays there this is a perfect time to start talking, but don't talk about yourself ask her about her. Then ask her if she thinks it's a little crowded in here, and hope she comes back to your apartment. =P

I guess since you are trying to get a girl you know to like you do sort of the same thing for awhile. Just don't talk to her that much, and when you do give her short answers act like you aren't interested that much anymore, and she will be very interested in you.

One more thing no matter what anyone tells you girls DO like the mysterious silent type when you first meet them, but don't make it seem like you're shy.

I’ve never met a girl I could win over that way!

Heh, "I'm always itching to help out lonely guys." Kunark the love doctor. =P

Digital Samurai wrote:

Opinion? It's a FACT. :P

No, I'm just simple stating that all the girls I've dated, and/or met I've never met one that as soon as you meet them they just want you to start talking, and talking.

Girls are like that... But I would rather meet a girl that could like me for who I am. Shy, hateful towards any people, lazy and fat. Ahh I love my description. Think I have a chance?

First off, we remember in emotions so if you're not interesting she's most likely to not be interested unless she's the type that builds you up in her mind without you having to do anything which usually is a sign of being needy or desperate so don't go there.

Basically you have to create platonic moments with her, once you've done the things that will create platonic moments (differs with each girl) you will start to develop her feelings for you. I've never heard of one case of a girl falling in love with a guy when he did absolutely nothing positive for her and didn't have a genetic attraction to him. Genetic attractions are tricky, as your body is pre-determined on what it really likes and finds to be an ideal mate based on pheremones, etc... which if they find someone who is matching up will create butterflies in your stomach, etc... There's also nurtured attraction which I won't go into here.

99% of girls want a guy to be funny at least 60% of the time, so if you're not funny you better have something else like the ability to speak well, intelligence that shows in various ways (perhaps you know a lot and can wow her, believe it or not a lot of girls like this because you're interesting.) In fact, I'd go so far as to say if you don't have looks you better have intelligence (which shows through your ability to have humor, play a musical instrument, etc). After all, girls like a quality cranium :D.


Remember that at first you're probably going to have to lie to her about who you are. If you're trying to wow a girl, and you're telling her how you are... then you're losing points unless who you are is going to appeal to her (most the time it doesn't because you play on byond most your time or whatever and not many girls want to know that). If you can make a girl laugh, and make her happy when she's around you it's usually pretty easy to take it further. You will fail a lot at first, so don't expect to always get them (I'd say at first, one in 15 or so girls)... you need to develop a personality around girls that is unique and makes you stand out from the rest. Remember that a girl gets hit on several times a day, so you've got to have something that none of these other usually highly attractive males don't have that interests her and a good tip is to figure out what a girl likes in a guy before going for her so you can pretend to be that guy.

Majority of girls I've dated I haven't even had to do much because I keep my body in shape, I don't show it off... which adds an exciting factor to dating me and perhaps taking me home. My manager at one of my jobs helps a ton as well, she tells all the girls at my job I'm this really great guy and they eat it up and so far in my district (payless district) here in washington there isn't one girl in it that hasn't heard my name (i'm the only guy to work at payless in our district in about 2-3 years) and I've been asked out several times by girls i"ve never met. I also keep the "good guy" personality, I act like I'm completely innocent (which I sort of am, I am so picky when it comes to dating) and a lot of girls like the idea that they can corrupt you, but then you add twists to it by being spontaneous (kissing them randomly during different situations, etc).

hope this helps!

Edit* Oh ya and common sense - listen to her, remember everything she says and always reply back with either a humorous joke, or a caring sigh. You need to be convincing, getting a girl to like you is like trying to manipulate someone. You can't just be yourself unless you're really lucky... since the average girl has hundreds of guys she COULD choose from since most guys would be willing to be with a girl that looked half way decent but wasn't always that intelligent.

The person who told you there are no magic words was right. You didn't "make" another girl go awww... you said something and she chose to go awww in response. There's a big distinction there... it's the way in which girls differ from robots.

This girl will either like you or she won't. You will try to do things that will make this particular girl more inclined to like you in response, but nobody here can tell you specifically what that would be... because she is an individual person, with an individual personality and individual likes and dislikes.

If you can't figure out how to relate to her in order to "get her to like you", then for how much you like her you still don't know her well enough.

Get to know her more. This will 1) give you more information to work with and 2) likely show her that you care about her as a person in a way that saying "I love you" never can.